I thought I’d have this book read quicker than I did. I had high hopes for my close to 36 hours of airplane flights, and several days of relaxing vacation. Well, I hardly got anything read in any of those many hours of flights and vacation.
He goes through the motives of getting married or not getting married. His wife, Kathy, writes the chapter on gender roles– which when you consider their age, is really impressive. But it’s all founded in Scripture. They talk friendship within marriage. They talk dealing with sin in marriage- and dealing with two sinners.
I rarely recommend books to Weston to read, but this one- I’ve told him he must read. It’s by far what I consider, the best book on marriage I’ve ever read. I’ve recommended it to multiple people already, and determined it’ll be something I give to every couple we know getting married. It’s just solid. It stirred my affections for Jesus and stirred my affections for Weston. Ultimately realizing I will always fail with Weston, but there’s grace given both with him and with God.
Now, some quotes from the book:
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”
“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.”
“Friendship is a deep oneness that develops when two people, speaking the truth in love to one another, journey together to the same horizon.”
“The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.”